About Jay Costa — Tantra Practitioner & Yoni Massage Therapist

A Spiritual Path — The Awakening That Changed Everything

At the heart of Jay's work lies a profound spiritual awakening that fundamentally shifted the course of their life. Through deep self-inquiry — inspired by the teachings of Ramana Maharshi and the non-dual tradition — Jay arrived at the direct recognition that we are not our thoughts. Not the inner narrator, not the stream of mental noise, not the stories of past or future the mind endlessly constructs. What remains when thought falls silent is pure awareness: boundless, undivided, and already whole.

This realisation was not merely intellectual. It was a lived dissolution of identification with the separate self — the falling away of the ego's grip and the opening into a vast, luminous stillness that is always already present. From this place of inner spaciousness, all of Jay's yoni massage, tantra massage, and erotic massage healing work flows.

Chakras, Nadis & the Subtle Body

Jay has developed a profound working knowledge of the subtle body — the energetic architecture that underlies and interpenetrates the physical. Drawing on the ancient yogic map of chakras (the seven primary energy centres) and nadis (the thousands of energetic channels through which prana, or life-force, flows), Jay is able to perceive, track, and work directly with the flow of energy in a woman's body during every yoni massage, tantra massage, and erotic massage session.

The root chakra (Muladhara) governs safety, belonging, and the right to exist in one's body. The sacral chakra (Svadhisthana) — the seat of feminine creative and sexual energy — is often where women carry their deepest unprocessed experiences: shame, trauma, numbness, contraction. The heart chakra (Anahata) holds the capacity for love, grief, and true intimacy.

Within the nadis, prana can stagnate around held experiences — particularly in the pelvic bowl, the womb space, and along the sushumna nadi. When these pathways are cleared through skilled yoni massage or tantra massage, energy begins to move freely again, producing spontaneous emotional release, waves of pleasure, deep grief, laughter, or profound stillness.

Since childhood, Jay has possessed a rare natural sensitivity — the ability to sense and feel energetic blockages in others without needing words to locate them. This innate gift is the foundation upon which all training, study, and direct experience has been built.

Emotional Blockages — From Stored Pain to Liberation

The body is not separate from the mind. It is the mind made physical — a living record of every experience, every suppressed feeling, every moment of disconnection from oneself. Women who have experienced sexual trauma, emotional abandonment, medical violation, or years of not being fully met in their bodies often carry these experiences as frozen energy — held in the tissues of the pelvis, the belly, the chest, and the throat.

Jay works with emotional blockages through yoni massage, tantra massage, and erotic massage for women not by forcing them open, but by creating the precise conditions in which the body feels safe enough to release what it has long been holding. This requires reading the body's signals in real time — noticing the subtle shift between openness and contraction, between presence and dissociation, between resistance and readiness.

Many women leave sessions having accessed parts of themselves they had lost contact with entirely — a renewed sense of aliveness in the body, a felt sense of their own boundaries, a return to pleasure, or simply a deep and unfamiliar peace.

Approach & Philosophy

Jay's work is rooted in four core principles. Safety — creating environments where women feel absolutely held and protected, where the nervous system can soften and open. Consent — informed, enthusiastic, and ongoing consent is foundational; nothing proceeds without it, and everything can stop at any moment. Confidentiality — absolute discretion is guaranteed without exception. And Reverence — every session is an act of deep respect for the feminine: for her body, her history, her desires, and her sovereignty.

The modalities Jay works with — yoni massage, tantra massage for women, erotic massage for women, and tantra retreats — are not merely techniques. They are doorways into a healing journey that works simultaneously at the physical, emotional, energetic, and spiritual levels.

Group Tantra & Yoni Massage Experiences for Women

Alongside individual sessions, Jay has facilitated over 20 group yoni massage and tantra massage experiences for women — intimate, carefully held spaces where women come together to explore healing, pleasure, and sacred feminine energy in community.

Group sessions offer something individual work cannot: the profound medicine of being witnessed and of witnessing others. When women drop into their bodies together — in an environment of complete safety, trust, and ritual — shame dissolves, comparison falls away, and what remains is a shared recognition of the sacredness of the feminine body.